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We have a variety of resources available for you. We often receive numerous questions on how to become a great Dominant, submissive, or general BDSM knowledge. While covering everything would be extensive, there are in-person and online classes, as well as various online resources that we highly recommend.

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  1. What is Femdom? Femdom, short for Female Domination, refers to a relationship dynamic where the dominant partner is a woman. In Femdom, the woman takes control and authority over the submissive partner. Femdom is a subset of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission/Sadism, Masochism) and can include a wide array of practices, always consensual, that involve power exchange, role-play, and other elements.

  2. What is FLR? FLR stands for Female-Led Relationship, which is a relationship structure where the woman takes on a leadership role. This power dynamic can extend to various aspects of life, from personal decisions to financial management. However, like every other healthy relationship, an FLR must be based on trust, communication, and honesty. It is not about subjugating one party but about consensual power exchange.

  3. How do I talk about Femdom or BDSM in general with my partner? Open communication and honesty are crucial when broaching the subject of Femdom or BDSM with your partner. This conversation should involve sharing your interests, desires, and fantasies in a safe and non-judgmental space. Remember, BDSM is based on informed consent, which means discussing mutual interests and setting boundaries is essential.

  4. How do I start exploring Femdom? Begin your exploration of Femdom by educating yourself about its dynamics and practices, as well as BDSM in general. There are numerous resources available online, such as blogs, forums, and educational websites. Furthermore, engaging with the BDSM community both online and locally, if possible, can offer valuable insights. Attend workshops and "munches" (casual social gatherings for people interested in BDSM) to broaden your understanding and meet like-minded individuals.

  5. Does exploring FLR and Femdom mean I have to enjoy other aspects of BDSM such as Pain? Not necessarily. FLR and Femdom, at their core, are about power exchange, and they're versatile practices. They can involve many different types of activities, from psychological dominance and service-oriented dynamics to sensual play. It's essential to tailor your relationship and dynamics to suit your personal preferences and boundaries. Remember, every element of a Femdom or FLR relationship should be consensual and agreed upon by all parties involved.

RESOURCES 

  1. Websites: BDSM 101: https://kynk101.com/

  2. Consent video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ

  3. Books:

  4. "The New Bottoming Book": https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/433500

  5. "The New Topping Book": https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/503943

  6. "The Ethical Slut" (non-monogamy): https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54944.The_Ethical_Slut

  7. Risk mitigation info on impact play: https://www.devianceanddesire.com/2014/12/bdsm-impact-play-safe-zones/

  8. "Consensual Sadomasochism": https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/699755.Consensual_Sadomasochism

  9. "The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance": https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/29120

  10. "S&M 101: A Realistic Introduction": https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/493829

  11. YouTube Channels: MsMorganThorne: https://www.youtube.com/@MsMorganThorne

  12. Playlist on munches, parties, and events: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECZdrual9Xs&list=PLIbQs99uipM0dVU8DrU2kZH2wo-qcoL12

These are just a few resources to get you started. You can find more online classes and extensive information by exploring Fetlife or conducting a Google search. Remember to do your research before attending any lectures or classes and embrace the teachings that resonate with you, as there are different schools of thought within BDSM and Femdom. 

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